SOME COMMON MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE (PART 1)

SOME COMMON MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE (PART 1)
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The period of singleness is a very critical period in the life of a young man or woman. Between the time one becomes an adult and the time one gets married is often the period that determines the kind of man or woman the person eventually becomes or the kind of life the person ends up living. That’ why it’s it is very important to pay attention to the kinds of beliefs that we accept, the kind of thoughts that we entertain and most importantly the kind of actions that we take.
The sum total of our beliefs, our thoughts and our talks is expressed in our actions. Action is what brings to manifestation what lies on the inside of any man. By a singular action of a man, you can know for sure what his beliefs are, what his thoughts are and essentially what his life is made up of. The average single has no knowledge whatsoever to back up his actions let alone have the understanding behind it. Therefore the plethora of mistakes that’s evident in their lives.
What is a mistake? A mistake is simply an incorrect, unwise, or unfortunate act or decision caused by bad judgment or a lack of information or care. It’s an action that’s based on ignorance, wrong conclusion or simply based on outright carelessness or recklessness. Life is made up of seed times and harvest times; it is made up of cause and effects. In the end if you sow the wrong actions
today, you are too sure that tomorrow you will reap the consequences of those actions. It is therefore very important for us to understand that marriage is the harvest ground for all the seeds that we are currently sowing as singles. In other words, every mistake we make as singles affects us in marriage, whether we like it or not!
So what specifically are some of the mistakes that most, especially the average singles, makes? We’ll be looking at just one today and hopefully we should finish them before the year runs out.
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#1. SHUTTING DOWN ALL THEIR LIFE IN ORDER TO GET MARRIED
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When most singles get to the age around when they think they should get married, they unconsciously tune out every other thing in their lives and concentrate more on settling down or getting married. Until they finally get married, marriage is essentially the theme of their lives. They think marriage, they breathe marriage, they talk marriage, they pray marriage, they dream marriage, they just pass out on marriage and simply cannot do without the thought of it. Because they want to get married by all means, they become a nuisance to themselves, then to everyone else including their prospects.
As singles, we must understand that there’s more to life than getting married. Marriage is just one of the things we do in life; it is not what life is all about. Marriage is only meaningful when we order our priorities right. Marriage should never come first in the mind of any serious minded single. One ought to think about it and plan towards it but it shouldn’t occupy us so much that it chokes out the more important things in our lives.
If all you are doing now is waiting for who will come and marry you or looking for who you are going to get married to, then your life is most of all miserable.
How can one do himself such a disservice? Whether Adam thought of whom he might marry or not, we don’t know. What we all know is that Adam was very well engaged in his work that it took God to distract him to get married. Adam wasn’t just single, he was alone that’s why he qualified for God’s intervention in marriage. Don’t confuse the two, they don’t mean the same thing. I know that you are single but are you alone? It’s a vital question that we must ask ourselves.
You cannot be alone and still be entertaining ladies in your bedroom. You cannot be alone and still be warming a man’s bed. No! To take it further, you cannot be alone and still be particular about any guy or lady. Being alone is a state where everyone of the opposite sex receives a fair and equal share of your attention. It might be a little more for some and less for some but as much as possible it should be rid of any uncanny feeling or special emotion for a particular person.
Singleness is a special gift of time to every young man and woman to enable them understand themselves better so that they can function seamlessly with another person when they eventually get married or even as they go about in their daily lives. The more one understands himself, the more he will know who he needs to marry. I’m telling you, if you don’t understand who you are and what you stand for, knowing who to get married to can be the most difficult decision to ever make in life.
Every time you bring another woman or another man into your life especially one you have no commitment to be married to officially and by that I mean observing all marital protocols necessary to get married, you are adding a bug (defect) to your design or system. Every man or woman you have sexual intercourse with is essentially corrupting your person. When you have sex, the other person takes away a part of you. It’s actually a minus to us every time we engage in illicit sex. We are doing ourselves more harm than good. That’s why some singles don’t even know who they are and what they are made of any more.
There’s no better time to focus on knowing oneself than when we are single and alone. There’s no better time to completely understand ourselves than when we are single and alone. God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I’ll make him an help meet.” Personally, and it’s my opinion, that it is very good to be alone until God says otherwise. The main stay of singleness should be work! Work!! Work!!! Working on ourselves, on our assignment, on our vision, on our skills, on our talents, working in the vineyard and in whatever interprets to work for us. The more work, the better our understanding.