SOME COMMON MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE PT.2

SOME COMMON MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE PT.2
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I just love weddings because it is one of the most important events in
a man’s life. It is one of the happiest days of a man especially a woman; a day when one turns to two and then one again. They call it spiritual mathematics.
As important as this day might be, the most important days of all are the days that follow long after the wedding day has been forgotten. All too often, the average single pays more attention to that single day than the lifetime after that.
We are talking about some common mistakes that singles make. In our first post, we said that one mistake average singles make is to shut down their life just in order to get married. If you haven't read it, check it out here on our page. We will look at another one today.
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#2. THEY PREPARE FOR THE WEDDING AND NOT FOR THE MARRIAGE
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The problem is not that they don’t prepare but what exactly are they preparing for? What should the priority be? The wedding or the marriage? Come to think of it, the wedding last but for only hours, I mean less than a day but the marriage lasts for a lifetime. Personally, I would rather have the worst of weddings in the opinion of men and have the best of homes still in their opinion. I do tell my mum anytime we are discussing wedding that I wont mind having just only 10 people on my wedding day. She knew if they should leave it with me, I will only invite just 5 people but you know Yoruba people, they love ceremony. Now back to our discussion.
The average single doesn’t see any difference between the wedding and the marriage and that is why we have more successful weddings than marriages today.
These days more thoughts and finances are put into preparation for the wedding than for the marriage. From day one, the average mind thinks of all sort of things from the bridal train to the ‘aso ebi’ to the chairs but they never bother to check how ready and prepared they are to make the most of the days that lie right after the wedding night. The couple concern themselves with what the world would say about their wedding so they go extra miles to make an impression and leave a statement. And when the day is over like we used to sing in nursery school, they begin to suffer the knocks of their ignorance and
sooner than later, the walls of their marriage come crashing down. And then, we get the real opinion of people.
If people really took time to plan for their marriages the way they planned for their weddings, we will have a fair share of successful marriages. Unfortunately, the average single would rather invest in wedding magazines looking out for the fashion that’s in vogue, checking out for the best of diamond rings and making all sort of wrong references than price an article on marriage. Ask them how
many books they have read on marriage and they’ll gape at you like you are speaking Chinese. Thank God for the wisdom of some churches; now they are making it compulsory for couples to read a certain number of books before they can approve their wedding. Otherwise, they won’t read a dot on marriage. Jesus always asked the Pharisees and Sadducees, “Have ye not read?” Don’t be too far to see and don’t be too sad to see; buy relevant books on marriage and read!
Must you wait till when you want to get married before you begin to prepare? No! The time to prepare is now. Must you wait till you are about to be married before you begin listening to messages and attending seminars on marriage? No! I started reading about marriage as an undergraduate ( first year in the university ); you can imagine how old I was then. Mehn, you are already getting too old for that excuse. I don’t say that to impress you but to impress upon you how
important knowledge is to the quality of the life that we must live.
Do you plan to enjoy marriage? Then plan more for the marriage than for the wedding. Invest more of your thoughts and finances into the marriage than into the wedding. The wedding is important but it shouldn’t be the priority.
Concentrate more on the decades long after the wedding night than on the very few hours of a sun shining day. Taking all the pains now to prepare for your marriage will save you from telling lots of stories that touch in the future. A word is enough for the wise!
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Am sure you’ve heard lots of touching stories out there because of lack of preparation. Share them with us and let us know what your thoughts are on this.
You are the best thing that can ever happen to another human being. Proof it at every opportunity!
Have the very best of the remaining parts of today.