COHABITATION AND ITS EVILS (Part 1)

COHABITATION AND ITS EVILS (Part 1)
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We all were children and some of us had more fun growing up than others. When I was a child, one of the fun I had was pretence marriage. Two children, a boy and a girl will playfully agree to be husband and wife. The girl acts out her mother’s role by cooking with an empty tomato tin while the boy went to work just like his dad did. The boy comes in and says “Honey, I’m baacckk” in a sonorous tone. The girl comes out welcoming him and collects whatever he held as a suitcase and says “Sweetheart, I know you are so tired after today’s
work, sit down while I get your food.” And then it gets more interesting when the girl suddenly carries a doll and pretends to be feeding it and says “Mummy is here, don’t cry.” Obviously, they skipped the sex part, they know nothing about it. Hahaha, being a child was fun for me seriously, I don’t know about you. I’m sure children still do the drama these days.
Pretence marriage was so good those days as a child. It was fun and exciting all because we were children, tender hearted and very innocent. Our parents had fun watching the whole episode and smiling back at each other. Today, as adults, pretence marriage can be likened to those crazy stunts you get to see people pull on television. If you listen carefully, there’s always a warning that says “DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME.” Drawing inference from the foregone
statement, cohabitation is a very dangerous stunt; DON’T TRY IT! Whether the man has paid for your hand and leg or whatever, until you are married to him, you are not supposed to be anywhere near his house. The only license for living with him is your marriage certificate and the pronouncement as husband and wife from the altar. Otherwise, ‘Mba’, you are not allowed to be his roommate.
It’s a No! No!
Now, someone may still be wondering “What is cohabitation?” John is strolling on the street one day on his way to the supermarket and sees Jane, his primary school classmate. They both meet, exchange pleasantries and John informs Jane that he’s living around the corner somewhere. They exchange numbers and the drills go on. Fast forward, John invites Jane over to his place and they have a wonderful time chatting about primary school and the funny experiences that came along with it. They both relish the moments and share eye contacts and invading glances at each other. And that was the end of the first day.
Jane visits again and again and the feelings for each other begins to mount. John begins to advance; telling her sweet nothings, filling her ear drums with whispers and echoes of love. Jane is falling gradually and begins to stay longer till late evening. One evening after the other, it goes from soft hand touches, to warm hugs, to a sweet embrace and then tight bear hugs. Then comes one evening, this evening is different; John is determined and ready and Jane has been swept off her feet already. They are both ready and the inevitable happens-they have sex.
From then on, Jane becomes so forgetful and begins to leave her slippers behind, then her extra pants, and now has extra clothes in John’s wardrobe should she pass the night in his place. She begins to move into John’s house little by little as an ant travels with food to its hole. Then she takes over his house and pretty soon John’s house now smells Jane everywhere. Finally, she becomes his roommate and then our pretence marriage as children is played out again; this time, it is a reality show…Hehehe. That is cohabitation.
Simply put, cohabitation is when a man and a woman live together as husband and wife without being officially married to each other. It is an illegal marriage.
Cohabitation is a very common thing in Africa and in the western world. As a matter of fact, it’s more common out there than over here because of our religious inclination. Most men like cohabitation because it relieves them of the stress of going through marital rites. There are many excuses that men give for not getting married, some are tenable and some are not. For instance, you don’t have to wait till you get all the money in this world before you get married, you don’t need to build your own house before you get married and even though a car is very necessary, you don’t need to own one before you get married. And for the ladies, the man must not be very rich for you to give him a yes. If he has the capacity to meet the basic needs of the family, why not? Stop waiting and wishing!
Now, let’s look at some evils of cohabitation.
“Now, the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; … forbidding to marry…”
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#1. COHABITATION IS FULFILLING A SATANIC AGENDA
This is the first evil of cohabitation as inferred from the above quote. The will of God for a man is to be married to his own wife. That is why a man must leave his father and mother so that he can cleave to his own wife. If a man forbids marriage, then let him stay by himself and leave women alone. That way, he will even serve God better. But if he is at all interested in women, then he should get married.
Why should one follow the ladies like a fly and then don’t want to get married? Was God stupid when he put the desires for a woman in a man in the first place? It’s natural for a man to desire the company of a woman so it should be natural for a man to marry his own wife. There’s no in between, you either marry or you forget it!
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#2. COHABITATION DISHONOURS GOD
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Marriage is only honourable when the man does not have sex with the woman before he marries her. Anyone that disobeys this instruction dishonours God and gives a foothold to Satan to enter into his home and this ultimately will bring shame and disgrace to him. The devil is very good at taking what God meant for good and turning it into a bad thing. And the devil is an expert in causing men to disobey very dangerous commandments of God. For instance, it was the fruit that God said man shouldn’t eat that Satan beguiled the woman to eat and then sin entered into the world. Now again, man should leave and cleave to his wife and the devil says what’s wrong with cleaving to the woman that is not yet my wife? Isn’t that telling us something about the devil? He never wants the best for man, and specifically speaking, he doesn’t have the best intentions for you.
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#3. IT AFFECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
Can you stay with a man that is not your husband and still have the confidence to pray? Can you still open your mouth to tell someone about God? Can you open the bible and pretend to be reading it? It’s impossible. There’s no hard and fast rule to this. The moment anyone begin this journey, he has left God behind. And what is any life worth without God in it? That life is nothing! If you can open your eyes and exchange God’s place for a man or woman, then something is wrong somewhere. So if you must maintain your relationship with God, then you must not walk the road of cohabitation.
There are many evils of cohabitation and I hope to exhaust them by tomorrow God willing. But this is already enough to warn us of the impending dangers of cohabiting with someone we are not legally married to. If you are in anyway cohabiting with any man or woman right now, pack your bags and leave there right now. Why? If what you’ve heard isn’t enough, then don’t worry, you’ll get to find out more in my post tomorrow.
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What do you think about cohabitation? Is it right? Is it wrong? What do you think are some of the evils that cohabitation can bring into a man or a woman’s life? Let me know your thoughts on this in the comments below.